Gay Influencer Carlos Filhar Dead at 47—Ex-Husband Reacts
The 47-year-old influencer had recently split from his estranged husband, Arthur Borges, after cheating allegations.
Gay influencer Carlos Filhar, best known as @ofilhar_ to more than 383,000 followers on Instagram, has reportedly died after addressing cheating allegations involving his husband, Arthur Borges, and sharing a gut-wrenching farewell letter as his final social media post.
The basics: Filhar, a 47-year-old psychologist born in São José do Rio Preto, gained social media notoriety for his relationship with Borges and his work as an advocate for the LGBTQ+ community in Brazil. He was particularly vocal when defending gay marriage and supporting trans rights. That rise in popularity, reaching hundreds of thousands of followers, came after just a year of Filhar dedicating himself to social media content.
Given that Filhar and Borges had been reportedly together for two years, those posts also showed the two of them as a couple with daily routines, attending events, and comically bickering in videos. The two men married in December 2025.
What happened: Filhar shared a gut-wrenching Instagram post on Tuesday, April 7 that came across as a farewell statement addressed to his followers, family members, friends, and to Borges himself. (A full English version of that social media post, translated by me, can be read below.)
A few hours later, Filhar’s death was confirmed in a statement from his PR agency, Grife de Ideias, which you can read below.
“It is with profound sadness that we announce the passing of Carlos Filhar, which occurred today, April 7, 2026. Carlos was more than an influencer — he was a person who inspired, made an impact, and shared his message with thousands of people through his authenticity, joy, and truth. His remarkable presence and unique spirit will be eternally missed by all who had the privilege of following and knowing him.
“In this time of grief, his family and friends express their immense gratitude for all the affection, messages, and prayers they have received. We ask for respect, empathy, and privacy so that everyone may navigate this period of mourning with serenity. Carlos will live on in our memories, in his legacy, and in every life he touched.”
On Wednesday, April 8, Portal Leo Dias reported that Filhar’s cause of death was “suicide” according to a local police report.
Latest updates: Filhar’s ex-husband, Arthur Borges, shared an Instagram post reacting to the news. The full statement, translated into English, can be read below.
“I am completely shattered. Carlos’s passing leaves me with a pain that defies words — an immeasurable void that has been impossible to explain. I am deeply devastated by this loss. He was not merely someone special… he was the great love of my life. Everything we shared — all the affection, companionship, and connection we built together — will never be erased. I also wish to share that, recently, we were in touch. We talked, laughed, experienced moments of tenderness, and reminisced about so many beautiful times we spent together. We were doing well — at peace, and on good terms.
“The friendship, respect, and affection between us always existed and remained until the very end. This is something I will carry with me forever. I ask, with all my heart, for this time of grief to be treated with sensitivity and empathy. I am in deep mourning, trying to find the strength to navigate all of this, and I need time, quiet, and comfort to be able to move forward. Carlos will never be forgotten. He will live on within me — in my story, in my love, and in the memories of everyone who had the privilege of knowing him. Thank you to everyone who is showing respect, offering support, and sending positive energy. It’s been essential for me during this time.”
The timeline: In the days leading up to the farewell statement and reported suicide, Filhar shared a series of cryptic Instagram posts, as outlined below.
Saturday, April 4: Filhar posted the image of a Phoenix and wrote that “life is made of cycles,” and that “we too carry the strength to rebuild ourselves after each fall.”
Sunday, April 5: Filhar shared a picture and wrote, “Thanks to everyone who enjoyed our content as a couple. However, life is full of twists and turns, and our lives have gone in different directions. For those who have liked [Filhar’s catchphrase on social media] ‘Love, Humor, & ME,’ I’m staying here, and would appreciate if you stuck around, too.”
Monday, April 6: Filhar posted a video, noting: “Due to the proportions things have taken, today, around 6 p.m., Arthur and I will do a video here to clarify things and answer questions,” Filhar explained.
Tuesday, April 7: Filhar shared the farewell statement that essentially announced his death.
Carlos Filhar’s Instagram post (translated into English): Read below, in full.
“Sometimes, exhaustion hits you hard, emotional fragility takes over, and you face immeasurable pain. The way I’ve found to soften that pain, in this moment, is to tell you all goodbye. It’s been a little more than a year here on the internet, and during that time period, we’ve brought joy, laughter, lightness, and incredible moments. The internet brought us so many people; people I admired from afar and became close, friends we’ve made, and unforgettable moments.
“I also want to say that meeting and living with Arthur was the best two years of my life. I came back to life, and I’ve never been happier. There was a breach of agreement [within the relationship] on his part, but I understand that we’re human, and obviously subject to failures, and that’s all right. Please don’t judge. Please forgive. I ask, from the bottom of my heart, that you don’t direct hate speech [toward anyone], because we’ve always been about love.
“I don’t have anger. On the contrary: I have love. It was with him that I returned to life, to smiling, and to the laughter that you all loved so much. Everything was real. Everything you saw was real. So don’t judge. I know his love for me, and this failure doesn’t change his love.
“[To Arthur] My love, you will always be my dengo, my life, my carrapatinho, my little one, and my love. You didn’t make a mistake. You tried too hard to fit into a world that didn’t fit you. We talked, and we already understood that, OK? Only we know.
“I say goodbye to this life with a lot of peace, a lot of calmness in my heart, and with the God that I’ve always believed in. He is waiting for me with open arms because He knows my heart. I’m sorry [to my] family, my nieces who are like daughters to me, do follow your ways. I know I was a good example of being human, and of a good person, to you. Follow everything, OK?
“Dad and mom, if I became an amazing man, of good, of love, it was because you existed — you were my examples. I love you, and forgive me for leaving without saying goodbye. You know I’ve always loved to go out quietly, without saying goodbyes. I’ll keep looking out for you, it’s just a slight change of plans. To my friends — only Renata knows that I didn’t do it for Arthur, he has nothing to do with this, I love him — a few, but worth a lot. I love you.”
This story is still developing…
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Other crisis intervention resources for LGBTQ youth and their caregivers include:
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